Games people play

And now I just feel stupid ..

Should I? Am I being too hard on myself?

“Without scheming to do wrong, or to make others unhappy, there may be error and there may be misery. Thoughtlessness, want of attention to other people’s feelings, and want of resolution, will do the business”. ~Jane Austen

I think I’m a fairly normal human being, nothing special.. but not lacking in good qualities either. I’m friendly and deeply interested in others and quite possibly that’s my first mistake. It’s taken a LONG time for me to realise that my first concern should be me. That’s not being selfish… it will be better for all those around me, if I am honest about and give credence to my needs. Maybe there needs to be a little fine tuning between needs and wants… but squashing down your own existence to please parents, meet societal expectations. wear other people’s judgments is draining… you may as well be a ghost. People may say, you’re a wife .. a mother ..that’s what you need to focus on. Do people actually think I am not aware of my obligations? I will be far more likely to meet those to the best of my ability if I am not stressing and being distracted by perceived lack in my life.

YOU DON’T HAVE TO HELP

Never mind others… that’s a lesson I learned not so long ago. Seriously nothing anyone else ever does has anything to do with you. We…